online couples therapy in san francisco

Couples who come to see me want a safe place to explore their relationship, deal with conflict and connect in a deep way. I am committed to co-creating a space with you where it is safe to be vulnerable.

Many couples have told me “If we had known how much this could help we would have started therapy sooner,” and I often hear, “everyone should do this!” I receive many referrals from couples who have had a such a positive experience that they want to recommend others.

I am trained in the psychobiological approach to couples therapy. This approach is extremely effective because the methods are based on how the brain, the nervous system and human attachment really work. I work with couples who may be very smart and successful, but struggle to deal with conflict and difficult feelings. I want couples therapy to empower you to create a home where all of you is welcome and a relationship that is a safe haven.

I coach couples to:

• Ride waves of emotion together.

• Identify and dissolve blockages to intimacy.

• Deal with conflict directly and effectively eliminating resentment and “emotional hangovers.”

• Heal old resentments once and for all.

• Become experts at meeting each other’s needs.

• Create more emotional and physical intimacy.

• Alchemize challenges into connection.

• Celebrate each other’s differences and grow as individuals.

• Prioritize their relationship.

I may be the right couple’s therapist for you if you are:

• Feeling disconnected, unappreciated, or like there’s stuff your partner just “does’t get.”

• Worrying about your needs and personalities being different.

• Feeling frustrated with the same old resentments coming up and rehashing the past.

• Have a history of anxiety, depression, addiction or family trauma and need some help navigating these issues together.

• Struggling to talk about touchy subjects without fighting.

• Missing the old romantic spark.

• Falling into shaming and blaming.

• Feeling like your needs aren’t being met or that your partner’s needs are overwhelming.

• Judging your partner as being checked out or unengaged.

• Judging your partner as critical, needy or impossible to please.

• Having fights that escalate and/or last too long.

• Finding it hard to prioritize your relationship.

• Struggling to feel like you are on the same team.

• Want to make a good/great relationship even better.

My practice is inclusive of all sexual orientations, spiritual or religious practices, races, genders and cultures. 

I know from personal and professional experience that couples therapy has the power to change relationships and change lives. Read what couples I've worked with say here.