Attachment

I build strong therapeutic relationships with my clients. This means that together we work with attachment to catalyze insight and healing and make your relationships better.

Attachment is about how we bond with people. We learned how to bond growing up in our families and each of us developed ways of bonding based on these early experiences.

Clinicians and neurobiologists use different language to try and explain how people attach and the different styles of bonding. We might say someone has avoidant, anxious or secure attachment, or my personal favorite, someone is an island, wave or anchor.

I help my clients explore their attachment style and their relationships through this lens. It is important to know that no attachment style is better than another, although each style has different strengths and challenges.

When attachment difficulties are more extreme clients often appreciate my special training and knowledge of the love addiction/love avoidance model. Insights and behavior changes based on this model can greatly reduce painful relationship dynamics.

Building Secure Relationships

Primary relationships work best when people feel safe, connected and free to be themselves. I work with individuals and couples to co-create secure relationships with the people in their lives.

I have special training in the psychobiological approach to couple’s counseling which means I help couples work directly with each other’s nervous systems and attachment styles to build the kind of loving relationship they want.

Most of us did not receive much guidance about how to communicate effectively, skillfully and safely with people in our lives. We may have had poor communication skills modeled to us in our families. This means important conversations may be avoided or not be effective. We can turn this around.

I coach my clients on how to communicate and make relationships better. I can help both my individual and couples clients build awareness about how their communication is impacting relationships. I teach and coach my clients in communication skills that help their relationships feel more authentic and loving.